Monday, September 22, 2008

This Week: In Diana's Head

This weekend has been a myriad of ups and downs.

I received the release for my first Diana DeRicci book. Yay!

I had constant program issues while trying to do the video for it. Boo!

Then Sunday I had another issue. And it wasn't pretty.

Do you know when you're in an abusive relationship? Do you know the signs?

Do you feel demoralized?
Rushed and harried because of someone else's emergency?
Made to feel guilt, or blamed for things out of your control?

Makes it sound personal, doesn't it? Well have no fear. This one isn't personal. It's actually a professional relationship I am discussing. One between a person and an organization. I got to witness this and personally, it made me sick to know that a company would stoop to this level

It could be any kind of business, employee to employer, but the same still stands. It is abuse. Whether by email, phone call, conversation or letter, tone can be used to inflict abuse. That's another avenue some people use to bully the people around them into doing what they want.

Did you know you don't have to take that? From any source? Mutual respect is earned, not demanded like a mocha grande. Degradation is running rampant because the unemotional basis of the internet gives us a means to create it.

Look, I could jump off the interstate bridge and try to fly, but it doesn't mean I'm going to. I have the sense to not lie, cheat or steal. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. We could all kill the person next to us. We're all physically capable. Emotionally too in some cases, but it doesn't mean we should. There's some part of humanity that is disappearing because of the internet and the abundance of e-business. The bottom line. Be respectful to those you meet anywhere, in real life or on line. Being abusive on line is still abuse, no matter what your title, name or country origin is.

*puts soapbox back in the closet*


Emma Sanders said...

Great post, Diana. My husband has always sworn that the internet shows a person's true colors because it's so easy to hide behind the mask of no one knowing who you are that makes it so much easier to be abusive. It's sad that that's so and I'm sorry you had to experience that.

Betty Hanawa said...

Sometimes, too, I think it's the self-centered attitudes prevalent these days. "I can say or do whatever I want. You just have to deal with it."

Sorry you've had to go through it.

Sandy said...

So sorry, Diana. Our country as a whole has developed this attitude I'm afraid. Especially, younger people because they believe they are indestructible.


Diana Castilleja said...

Given enough rope, anyone can hang themselves.

I see this often on the internet.

TJ said...

Or as I say - give a fool a shoelace and he'll somehow fashion a noose.

Linda Mooney said...

That's the biggest flaw with the internet, IMO. If someone is a thousand miles away and treats someone else like moose poop, they believe they have complete immunity. Said victim doesn't have an address or a phone number (or in some cases, a real name) where they can contact the person in "real life". Which leaves the victim with only two choices: put up with it, or hire a lawyer.

My heart goes out to you, Diana.

Z(Aasiyah/Nolwynn) said...

How very well said, Diana. No one should put up with abuse, and especially where your work is concerned. If people can't be professional in this realm, where will they be?

Hang in there and stick to your guns. Know you're not alone.